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February 27, 2008

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meg

A part of me, too, would like to be pregnant again. Even though I never can again. We got ripped off. We never got to make it to full term and we never got to keep our babies. It is beyond unfair.

But then the other part of me is so relived that I never have to go through that terror again. I never have to wonder if this will be the day that it all goes badly.

I don't know what the answer is. Other than, I wish our babies were here.

Ann

Well, I guess part of it is something Dr. L of Infertility Blog fame wrote a while ago--Excluding surrogate cases, you cannot birth a (live, full-term) baby without first becoming pregnant. So the idea of becoming pregnant, even when you doubt it will actually last, still has some measure of hope in it.

And I think that that hope is a good thing. As I have learned while grieving my loss, the only thing worse than losing a baby is losing hope--hope that I can be happy someday, hope that I will someday understand why this happened, hope that things might somehow work out.

Sam

I think I'm about 50-50 on it. Some days I want it more than anything, sometimes I'm happy to continue doing all the things you can't do with pregnancy and/or children.

Mind you not getting pregnant does not necessarily mean you avoid unhappy times unfortunately.

On balance I'm going to try again, age will prevent that anyway in a few years so this might as well be the attempting years - for better or worse.

Sam

I think I'm about 50-50 on it. Some days I want it more than anything, sometimes I'm happy to continue doing all the things you can't do with pregnancy and/or children.

Mind you not getting pregnant does not necessarily mean you avoid unhappy times unfortunately.

On balance I'm going to try again, age will prevent that anyway in a few years so this might as well be the attempting years - for better or worse.

Geohde

I can't bear to think of having to try again if this pregnancy should fail, but I guess if it happens I just will. There really is no other option. I'm not ready to let go of the idea....even though I don't do getting knocked up the old fashioned way either.

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